After living in New York for 4 years, I packed up my things and came to the West Coast to further my career as a songwriter and creative. The plan, originally, was to come to LA for a few months, make some connections, then head back to the East Coast to continue life as it was, but we all know that if you want to make God laugh… you know the rest.
A few months into this journey, I found myself in the middle of a break up, experiencing the matrix that is an LA summer, wondering how in the hell I ended up in the Hollywood Hills amongst athletes, rappers, and a bunch of women who just desperately wanted to be chosen.
It seemed to be a reoccurring theme in this city: wanting to be good enough to chosen.
I kept running into all kinds of amazing women who admitted that the struggle to be beautiful, marketable, profitable, desirable, and every other “able” thing was stressful, unrealistic, yet the reality of the times and mecca we lived in.
I said “eff that” and created B3.
This site quickly became an outlet for me to express my thoughts, opinions, and concerns on all things beauty and black girls, and it never dawned on me how many people were watching;
I wrote a piece on my home girl, Beyoncé, and well, the reviews were… interesting:
50,000 people liked it.
100 had a lot to say to me… personally
And 1 or 2 people wanted me and all black girl magic to go to hell
Alrighty then LOL.
I suddenly felt this pressure to constantly deliver, and be better than my last post, but the funny thing about authenticity is that it doesn’t quite work that way (neither do Facebook algorithms).
What you do care about is representation, real talk, and a damn good deal, because why not?
It also dawned on me that many people didn't really know who I was, my background, or where to find me. This was absolutely intentional because I really didn't want to put myself out there, and was terrified of being labeled as something I wasn't (whole 'nother blog post!)
After many conversations with my friends-who are the best people in the world- I realized that it would only make sense for someone who is immersed in both the beauty and music industry to share my experience, knowledge, and truths so that i'm not only being true to my DNA, but hopefully encouraging someone else on their journey to bad assness.
To do that, I really needed to recharge and look within myself for something way deeper than influence.
Taking this time off has allowed me to re-strategize, get my sh*t together, get back to my happy place, and figure out my why.
I created this site because I needed to see something that told me and other women who were chasing their dreams that they didn’t have to run after self-esteem or any thing else to be worthy- that we are dope, beautiful, and more alike than we know.
Don’t make me start preachin’ lol.
I say all this to say:
If you’re ever feeling overwhelmed, out of control, or just on another wave, please don’t ever be afraid or ashamed to take a step back and get back to your center. Your happiness and peace of mind has to come first because the world deserves the best version of you.
That was long, but yall like to read so we’re all good. Hope you like the new site!