Growing up, I always wore my hair natural - without perm.
Having a head full of curly hair may have it’s advantages, but I remember always feeling weird and unappreciated because of it. People were always coming up to me-touching, braiding and combing my hair. I always thought it was weird that they were fascinated over my hair texture, when no one, other than my siblings, had hair like mine.
In high school, I didn't really think too much about it, but when I went away to college, I could feel the insecurities surrounding my hair:
Everyone around me had straight hair.
I mean, everyone.
Whether it was a perm, a fresh blow out, or long, flowing extensions, it was straight. My wild, tangled, out of control-on a humid day-hair only belonged to me.
I felt overlooked-like I didn't belong, or didn't fit in.
I felt pressure to constantly straighten my hair, and as a result, I damaged it.
I later realized that I just wasn't meant to “fit in” and had a lot of beauty insecurities to tackle.
Since college, I've embraced my hair, but it was a real struggle and process for me.
You never really understand or know what the real cause for an insecurity is, until you scratch the surface. I experienced a lot of loneliness while in school, and was down on myself for just about everything. When I was 20,I started a journal, documenting my progression from self-hate to self-love; I wanted to forgive myself for those feelings, but I also never wanted to forget the journey.
I started eating better, exercising, and really learned to appreciate all of me:
Contributing Writer: Bianca